Q&A: More Intimacy Publicly

Q: “My wife says she wants me to be more intimate with her publicly.”

A: If she’s talking about such things as reaching over and holding her hands in public, standing close to her, or putting your arm around her shoulder when you’re in a crowd, she’s probably telling you that Physical Touch is her language. And when you don’t touch her in the presence of other people, she has the sense that you don’t like being with her—she’s feeling unloved because you’re not speaking her love languges. When in a crowd, try reaching out and hold her hand or perhaps walk close by to her and say, “out of all the people that are here tonight, you are the most beautiful.” If Words of Affirmation is also her language, that would really speak to her. Take the complaint seriously because the complaint is revealing her love language.