Q&A: Lying About The Past

Q: How do I learn to forgive my husband for lying about his past?

A: I think one of the most difficult things to get over is a spouse who lies to you about their past. I think, however, you can forgive for that. There has to be genuine repentance, they have to acknowledge to you that they were wrong and regret that they lied. But I do think that when they apologize to you and repent, as Christians, we must stand ready to forgive.

The Scriptures say we are to forgive as God has forgiven us. God forgives us when we confess our sins and when our spouses confess their sins, I think we have to stand ready to forgive them. It doesn’t remove all the hurt but when the hurt comes back you say to God, “I thank you that that is now forgiven.”