Q&A: Being Ignored

Q: When we’re around other people, I feel ignored by my boyfriend. How can I communicate this?

A: Just tell him straight forward. Most of us as men are rather dense so don’t beat around the bush. You can say something like: “You know, when I’m with you in public and you start talking to other people and ignore me, I feel like you really don’t care about me.” If you tell him how you feel then he can either get defensive. If he does then that’s a sign that the’s not mature enough to listen to legitimate complaints. But if he says to you, “honey, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that’s the way I was effecting you but you are the most important person in my life and whatever I need to do to communicate that to you, I’m certainly willing to do it.”

Whenever we feel like our spouse doesn’t love us in the presence of other people, it is threatening and it needs to be shared and shared openly.