Q: Is it harder to fill some people’s love tanks than others?
A: Well that depends on what you’re love language is. If Words of Affirmation is not your language, and let’s say it’s number five for you, then it’ll be difficult for you to learn how to speak Words of Affirmation. If there’s a love language that is least important to you but first in importance to your spouse, there’s a higher learning curve.
So yes, for some people it is difficult to learn how to speak another person’s language. For example, if you grew up in a family that was not touchy feely and your spouses language is Physical Touch, it’ll take some effort and you’ll have to push yourself. But the good news is you can learn to speak any of these languagess. As adults, if we understand the importance of communicating love to our spouse, we are motivated to learn to speak their langauges. When we do, it makes a huge difference in the relationship.