There’s more to an apology than saying “I’m sorry”

Perhaps you’ve said “I’m sorry” but your spouse is finding it hard to forgive you. So you feel frustrated and are saying to yourself, “I apologized, what else can I do?” If you’re serious, I’ll tell you. Ask your spouse this question: “What can I do to make this up to you?  I know I hurt you and I feel bad about it, but I want to make it right. I’d like to do something to show you that I love you.”

This is far more powerful than simply saying, “I’m sorry.” You are trying to make restitution. You are demonstrating that you really care about your relationship. After all, what your spouse wants to know is “are you sincere in your apology?”