A: I sometimes ask the wife, “Does he work? Bring home money? Pay the bills?” That’s a huge part of being a spiritual leader because God said the husband is to provide for the family. But most of the time they are thinking such things as reading devotional material together with her and the children, initiating prayer at the table, helping and being excited about going to church with the family.
Those things are what most wives have in mind when they talk about their husbands being a spiritual leader. So, I would say, ask yourself, “Which of these am I doing and doing well and where do I need to make improvements?” One step at a time. We become spiritual leaders when we do things that turn our family toward God.