Q: My son will be getting married soon. What are the biggest mistakes new couples make and how can I advise my son to avoid them?
A: I think the biggest mistake is allowing our own ideas to be the idea. So when we get into a difference of opinion, we assume our side is right and we try to convince the other person, “You’ve got to see it my way or you’re not being intelligent.” Teaching them how to resolve conflicts without arguing, which requires listening empathetically, trying to understand the other person’s position, and then giving their position. Understanding leads us to finding resolutions. I think communicating that is probably the best thing you could do for a young couple getting married.