Q&A: My wife’s father died suddenly last year. How can I comfort her?

A: I’m glad to see that as a husband, you have a desire to comfort your wife and not just ignore the fact that she has lost her father. Ask her questions about her father. It is in talking about the person who has died that we work for our grief. Typically it takes about two years to work through the death of a close relative. So be patient with her, ask her questions, listen carefully when she talks, let her know you understand when she cries, give her hugs and affirm her. Don’t tell her, “you’ve got to snap out of this and get over this.” Give her time.