When You're Married to a Verbal Abuser

Verbal abuse has become a major problem in American families. Verbal abuse is a relatively new term but an ancient malady. King Solomon said, “A fool gives full vent to his anger.” Foolish indeed that we would seek to destroy the people we love the most—family.

If you are living with a verbally abusive spouse, it’s time for tough love. You might say, “I love you too much to sit here and do nothing. Your words are destroying our marriage, your own self-respect, and me. Here is the name of a counselor. When the counselor tells me you have made progress, I’ll be happy to join you in counseling. Until then, I’m staying with my mom.” Tough?  Yes, but loving.