Q: I love my boyfriend very much but there are things that really annoy me about him. I hear marriage only compounds the problem. Do I need to change?
A: Yes and so does he. You cannot have a good marriage unless you deal with the things that annoy you. It’s perfectly natural that there’s going to be things that really annoy you. Bring them up and discuss them. Don’t fear that bringing them up will run him away—if he runs, let him run. If he’s not willing to change now, he will not change after you get married.
Yes, you have to change because there are also some things you do that annoy him. These are the kinds of things you need to change before you get married. I wrote a book some time ago called Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married. I think you’ll find it helpful.