Q: Gary, I feel like my wife and I are growing a part. We’ve been together for 22 years. What can I do to help spark our love again?
A: I would say two or three things. Go to a marriage seminar or a marriage conference if you haven’t been to one in a while. Read a book on marriage—Share a book. That is, read a chapter a week and share with each other one thing you learned about yourself in that chapter. It’s a good way to stimulate growth in a marriage. I would also say: Be sure you know their love languages and speak it regularly. That keeps emotional love alive in the relationship. Lastly, do something you haven’t done in a while. If you just simply drift along, you’re going to drift apart. However, if we take initiative we can have a growing marriage.