Q&A: I broke off an engagement but we got back together. What advice would you give us for trusting and forgiving?

A: Any time a couple breaks off an engagement and then gets back together, I think you should take plenty of time to explore the foundation of the relationship. It’s not just a matter of regaining trust or forgiving the past, it’s a matter of digging a little deeper—because when you get engaged then break it off, that’s pretty serious. You need to take this time to learn and grow. I do think that you can forgive the past and learn to trust again, but more importantly is discovering the foundation that you really need to have in order to have a good marriage. That’s why I wrote Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married.