What I would say turned it around is this: I finally said to God, “I don’t know what else to do and when I said that, I had a visual image of Jesus on His knees washing the feet of His followers. And I heard God say to me, “that’s the problem in your marriage. You don’t have the attitude of Christ, which is an attitude of service.” And I knew it was true. When I started saying to her, “How can I help you? How can I be a better husband to you? How can I make your life easier?” she started teaching me how to serve her and our whole marriage got turned around. In due time, she came back with the attitude of Christ toward me. To me, that’s the key.