We hear a great deal about physical abuse, but what about verbal abuse. The scriptures say, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Verbal abuse destroys respect, trust, admiration, and intimacy—all key ingredients of a healthy marriage. All of us sometimes say harsh cutting words that we later regret.
However, if we are mature, we will express sorrow and ask forgiveness. The verbal abuser, on the other hand, seldom asks for forgiveness. Typically, the abuser will blame the spouse for stimulating the abuse. “She got what she deserved” is the attitude of the abuser. And don’t think it is always men who abuse. Male or female, verbal abuse must not be accepted as appropriate behavior.