Q&A: My husband’s love language is Physical Touch. How can I be more physically affectionate when it’s so foreign for me?
I would say start with little things. Take baby steps. Just reach out and touch your spouse on the shoulder. That’s a start. Then maybe next time, a pat on the back as you walk by. Then the next time, when you’re pouring coffee, put your hand on their shoulder and leave it there. Little touches will bring you to the place where it feels more comfortable for you. But ultimately, we’re not talking about comfort; we’re talking about love. And love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself. So you keep in mind, I’m doing this because it communicates to him not necessarily because I feel comfortable with it.