A: It’s time to say to him “I love you, I really do want to get married to you but I’m not getting married until you deal with your drinking problem.” Now I know such a statement is threatening. It’s also risky because you may lose the relationship. He may tell you, “Don’t tell me how to live my life.” But it’s far better to hear him say that now before you get married than to hear him say that six months after you’re married. I’m telling you, this is a serious problem. Don’t ignore it. It will not go away. Tough love is the only kind of love that will help him at this point.