Q&A: How can I help my spouse better understand my needs?

Question: I am a newlywed and would like to know what I can do to have my husband better understand my emotional and physical needs?

Answer: One of the best things, I’ve found, is to encourage couples to share a book with each other. Ask a friend if you don’t have an idea for a book. You each read a chapter separately and at the end of the week, you share one thing you learned about yourself in that chapter and then they share one thing they learned about themselves. What you’re doing is being exposed to ideas and learning about yourself. Now if the book has assignments, I would suggest you do this assignments. It’s like self-counseling. Sharing a book is a good idea.