Q&A: What if I speak one love language and want to receive another?

Question: Is it possible to speak one love language but want to receive a different one?

Answer: Absolutely; About 75% of us speak what we want to receive, but about 25% speak one language predominantly but prefer a different language—probably because we learn to speak that language when we’re children. So it’s okay, you’re not abnormal. For 75% of us what we’re speaking is what we want but for the others, they’re speaking one language and desiring another.

The important thing is that you learn to speak your spouse’s primary language, or in your case your boyfriend’s language, and he learns how to speak your language. When you do that, you keep love alive—even when you come down off the high of the in-love experience.