Q&A: How do I start a marriage discipleship ministry?

Question: I would like to start a marriage discipleship ministry at my church. Where do I begin?

Answer: I think you begin by talking to your pastor…let him know your passion, let him know your vision, let him know what you would like to do. I suggest you start very simply. Choose five couples in your church that you think have a fairly good marriage. Then, tell them because you think they have a healthy marriage that you want to have the experience of leading them through a marriage enrichment program. Next, you choose a program—you can choose from my materials or you could choose from other materials—and you take those five couples through the program.

At the end of that, one or two of them will say “Hey, we could lead a group like this.” You recruit them—You let them lead the next group and then you start another group. It doesn’t take long until you’re taking scores and scores of people through a marriage enrichment program.

Practically Speaking: Week of April 15

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 15, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION If your friend enjoys making art (songwriting, painting, creative writing, etc.), take time to sincerely compliment his or her workmanship...... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 8, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 8, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Next time you overhear someone saying something nice about a friend, relative, spouse, or coworker, pass it along. Send a..... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 1, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 1, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Does someone you care about need some encouragement? If so, consider secretly reaching out to as many of their friends,..... Read More

I’m Separated. Now What?

Written by Gary Chapman

You are separated, but you really don’t want a divorce. You want to follow the Biblical ideal of seeking reconciliation. How do you go about it. First, you must not allow your emotions to control you. I didn’t say that you should not have emotions. Hurt, anger, disappointment, and pain are often the emotions of..... Read More

God’s Way Of Rebuilding a Marriage

Written by Gary Chapman

You may not have positive feelings toward your spouse, but you are choosing to give them unconditional love every week by doing something for them that you know they want you to do. There is a good chance that within six months, you will hear your spouse say “This is great. I can’t believe the..... Read More

What Can I Do To Make Your Life Better?

Written by Gary Chapman

“I’ll treat her better when she treats me better.” “I’ll treat him better when he treats me better.” Such an attitude misses out on the power of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the choice to love your spouse no matter how they treat you. Let me give you a suggestion: Go to your spouse and..... Read More

Who Will Take The Lead?

Written by Gary Chapman

All of us would like to think that someone loves us unconditionally. The child longs for this kind of love from his parents, but husbands and wives also desire unconditional love from each other. The wedding vow was to love “in sickness and in health, in poverty and in wealth, so long as we both..... Read More

Using The 5 Love Languages in Education

Written by Gary Chapman

So, your spouse has failed you. But now, they have confessed their wrong and are seeking to change their behavior. What are you to do? In the Scriptures, forgiveness is always the Christian response to confession and repentance. Remember, forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to lift the penalty and declare the..... Read More

Dealing Effectively with Failures

Written by Gary Chapman

You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God..... Read More

Would You Like to Put the Past Behind You and Start Over?

Written by Gary Chapman

I’m talking about in your marriage. Many couples have so much pain from past failures that they have a hard time moving ahead. Time alone, will not heal hurts. Healing comes when we are willing to confess our failures and change our behavior. Some of us would like to leave out the confession part and..... Read More