Q&A: Should we initiate communication with our adult daughter?

Question: Our adult daughter emailed us asking to stop all communication with her for 7 months. Should we try to reinstate communication or wait for her to contact us?

Answer: Well I don’t know what motivated your daughter to ask you to stop communicating. It may be she feels badgered by you. It may be that she feels you’re trying to control her life, and she’s trying to break away and be independent. But I think I would honor her request. In honoring it, you’re communicating to her, “You’re an adult, we respect you and we respect your decisions.” If you do that, chances are she may initiate communication again, you may do it on a different level—one where she may not feel badgered or controlled. Honoring your adult child’s wishes can be the first step in renewing your relationship.