Q&A: What does God say about an abusive husband?

Question: What does God say about an abusive, angry, and bitter husband, who insults his wife in front of their kids and blames the wife for everything that goes wrong?

Answer: Jesus said, “You have heard it said, ‘love your neighbor and hate your enemy’, but I say, ‘love your enemies. Bless those who curse you and pray for those who use you and persecute you.’”  Sounds to me like your husband qualifies. Now, don’t miss-understand Jesus. He did not say “have warm feelings toward a husband who is angry, abusive, and bitter.” What he said was, love and bless such a husband.

Love is an attitude with appropriate behavior. Love says, “I’m married to you and I choose to do what I can to enhance your life.”  This attitude leads to positive actions. Now, love is not always tender.  Sometimes love is tough. “I love you too much to sit here and do nothing.” Therefore, I am going to take the kids and move in with friends until you are willing to deal with your anger. Have your counselor call me when he wants to talk to me.”

Love requires action.