Ask a dozen people that question, and you may get a dozen answers. In human relationships, we feel loved when the other person speaks our primary love language. If words of affirmation is my love language, then I feel loved when you verbally affirm me. The same principle is true in our relationship with God.
In my book, God Speaks Your Love Language, I give biblical, historical, and contemporary examples of how God draws people to Himself by speaking their primary love language. This book has tremendous implications for evangelism. We are God’s representatives. He often uses us to express His love. Learning to speak a person’s love language makes us more effective vehicles of God’s love.