Question: As a pastor, I’m asked to officiate weddings for couples who have lived together before deciding to marry. Does your book: Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, apply to such couples?
Answer: The short answer is, “Yes”. The longer answer is that couples who live together before getting married are no better prepared for marriage than those who did not. In fact, their divorce rate is even higher. The topics I deal with in Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married are designed to help all couples whatever their past experience.
I include such topics as: I wish I’d Known that…apologizing is a sign of strength; forgiveness is not a feeling; toilets are not self cleaning; how to solve conflicts without arguing; that romantic love has two stages; and that personality profoundly affects behavior.
Most couples who have lived together before marriage have not learned these realities nor the skills to apply them.