Question: My fiancé and I are both 20 years old and applying to graduate schools. I’m just wondering how to balance marriage, work, and grad school? What obstacles should we expect?
Answer: My first suggestion is postpone the marriage. If you are 20 years old and already applying to graduate schools, you must be exceedingly smart. So, use your smarts. Don’t get married until you have both been accepted into graduate schools and have part-time jobs. This will give you a realistic idea of how much time will be left over for your relationship.
You have plenty of time for marriage. Why not finish graduate school before you get married? If, however, you decide to get married while still in school, I can tell you from experience, you will have minimal time for each other. I got married at 23 while in graduate school and we had some very difficult years. Before you get married, talk with at least two couple who got married while in graduate school – they will give you realistic advice.