Q&A: When the euphoric feelings fade

Question: I feel like my fiancé has lost interest in me. How can I get her to be interested once again?

Answer: It may be that your fiancé is coming down off the emotional high of being ‘in love’. I know that many people believe that if you are really in love, those feelings will remain forever. That is simply not true. The average life-span of the euphoria is two years. So, if you have been dating more than two years, this is likely what is happening.

Many couples break up at this point because they have ‘lost the feelings’. However, if you can learn to speak each other’s love language you can keep emotional warmth in the relationship. It’s not the euphoria, but there will be genuine feelings of love and care. Then you can look realistically at the relationship and whether or not it should lead to marriage.