How do you learn a child’s love language? Observe how they express love to others. If they are always wanting to help you do things, then ‘acts of service’ is probably their love language. If they say, “You’re such a good mommy”, then words of affirmation is likely their language. They are loving you in the language they wish to receive.
Another clue is what do your children complain about? If Johnny says, “We don’t ever take walks in the park since the baby came.” He’s telling you that ‘quality time’ is his love language. If your daughter says, “You didn’t bring me anything?” she’s revealing that her love language is receiving gifts. Learn to speak your child love language and watch their countenance change.