Does your marriage seem hopeless? Sometime ago I wrote a book entitled Desperate Marriages. As a marriage counselor, I find many individuals who have given up on their marriage. I’m empathetic with their hopelessness. I know that when you do everything you can to stimulate change and nothing changes, it’s easy to lose hope.
However, we can, and do change every day: for better or for worse. It’s true, we cannot make our spouse change, but we can influence our spouse. When we lose hope, our influence is negative. We become a part of the problem, rather than a part of the solution. When we refuse to ‘give up’ we become a positive influence. For more on how to be a positive change agent in a difficult marriage, see my book: Desperate Marriages.