I was giving a lecture on the five languages of apology. At the break a man approached me and said: “For the first time in my life I understand the value of apologizing. My father’s philosophy was that ‘apologizing get’s you nowhere. Do the best you can and never look back.’ That’s pretty much the way I lived until my wife committed adultery.”
“So, what would it take for you to forgive her,” I asked? “I want her to admit that what she did was wrong and to promise me that she will never do it again. If I knew that she would never do it again, I think I could forgive her.”
This husband was demonstrating the necessity of apologies. There are no healthy marriages without apologies and forgiveness.