April 13, 2011
Some people don’t solve conflicts because they would rather win an argument than find a solution. Did you ever stop to think that if you win the argument, your spouse lost the argument. It’s no fun to be a loser or to live with a loser. So, why create one? Arguments seldom lead to a mutually satisfying solutions. More often than not, one of us walks out of the room and nothing is resolved.
One way to stop arguments is to agree that we will focus on finding a solution. We already know that we disagree. So, let’s try to understand the other person’s point of view. Let’s listen long enough to say, “that makes sense.” (It always makes sense in their head.) Then you ask, how can we solve the problem? When you look for a solution, you will find one.