In my book, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers, I make the point that parents of teens must learn a new pattern of communication. When our children were little, we issued instructions and commands, but if we continue this pattern during the teen years, the teenager will say, “You’re treating me like a child.” And, he will be correct.
The teen is developing independence and self-identity. It’s time to move to dialogue, rather than monologue. As children, they simply listened to you. Now, they have their own ideas, emotions, and dreams. It’s time for you to listen without condemnation. They already know your thoughts. Now it’s time for you to learn their thoughts.