In Ephesians chapter 5, husbands are given two models as to how to love their wives. First, he is to love her as ‘Christ loves the church’. Which means that he takes the initiative to love her, even when she is not loving him. And, he is to love her even at the expense of his own life. He is to be looking out for her interests, seeking to meet her needs.
Secondly, he is to love her ‘as he loves his own body’. Most of the men I know are eating three meals a day, sleeping every night, and playing golf or other sports regularly. Yes, we take care of our bodies. What if, we invested as much time in meeting her needs as we do in meeting our needs? I think we would have wives who would respect us.