Comments on: Love Language Stories

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 19:58:22 +0000

I bought the book The Five Love Languages of Children when I was trying to work through some of my childhood baggage. I learned that Words of Affirmation is my love language and consequently criticism is especially hurtful. Meanwhile, my parents both have other love languages and thought I overreacted to their harsh words. None of us felt loved by the others. I have learned how to love them and how to seek love from them, and our relationship has grown exponentially. At the same time I’ve entered into a romantic relationship where I was immediately attuned to the fact that his love language was quality time. In addition to using all the love languages, I especially work to make sure that I am giving him adequate time, so that he knows I love him dearly. Conversely, I know that if I need a reminder that he loves me I know what to ask for: verbal reassurance. I’ve never had this kind of relationship success with anyone before. Such insight is truly a Godsend.

By: Rose

Rose — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 14:42:07 +0000

I bought your devotional when my husband was in rehab, as a way of strengthening our religious ties, little knowing that it was what I needed to understand what marriage was all about. I had orginaly purchased it as a gift for someone my husband had befriended while in rehab, and bought an extra copy for us….. there was just so many “freaky” events (messages on particular days that were just so relevant) that we were encouraged to listen to the audio of the 5 love languages while on a road trip vacation. I realised that I was misunderstanding my husband’s expression of love, and was confused about my love language until I took your assessment today. I now feel positive that I can address my empty love tank with my husband and am sure that even if things don’t work out with us, that I will be more equipped with myself and my life than ever before. Thank you for such amazing insight!!!!!!!!!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 24 May 2010 07:05:22 +0000

This book has saved a marriage that hasn’t even happened, yet! We were still “in love” when we got engaged, and then started having trouble, compounded by his military deployment. We love each other so much, but couldn’t figure out our frustrations! I’m a Physical Touch, he’s an Acts of Service, and we were speaking the wrong language for almost a year! I didn’t even understand his attempts to show me love, and he just felt smothered. It took reading this while half a world apart to understand.

Now we both have a fresh understanding of one another, and are looking forward to his homecoming, so that we can put these tools to use. The Words of Affirmation as both of our second has been our main form of healing, since he’s been gone.

I can’t thank you enough for helping ensure that we will now have the happy, loving, mature marriage that we both want for our future family! Thank you so much!

By: Justin

Justin — Sun, 23 May 2010 20:36:57 +0000

My wife and I are complete opposites personality wise–I am a strong, outgoing, adventurous, uninhibited Assembly of God pentecostal. She is a quiet, reserved, conservative, peace-loving, United Methodist type. We have been married for 4 years as of Aug 2010 and had the pleasure of learning our love languages early on in our relationships because I took the initiative to read the material.

I cannot express what a blessing it has been. I am words of affirmation, she is quality time so we have found a few activities that appeal to both. The greatest one being MadLibs just before we go to bed at night!! I get the words that are funny, she gets the quality time of attention for her providing them, we have a blast, and go to bed feeling the stresses of the day gone and the intimacy of a close love as we go to sleep, and wake up refreshed!

I am also a chaplian sharing this material with my soldiers and seeing the tremendous difference it makes in the married and single soldier retreats!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 19 May 2010 14:01:45 +0000

My husband and I hadn’t even been married for a year and we hit a big speed bump! We had just bought our first house, got two Labrador puppies and were just making it financially. All of this put so much strain on our marriage we were battling to keep things together. I didn’t even think we’d make it to our first anniversary! Then I remembered I got your book from my Aunt for my bachelorette party. I started reading it and sharing the stories with my husband as I went along. It has helped us so much! It is like we are newlyweds again! Thank you so much!!!! We just celebrated our first anniversary and things could not be better!!! I can’t thank you enough!!

By: Brittney

Brittney — Tue, 18 May 2010 00:36:39 +0000

My husband and I have been married for two years this June. We started dating when I was a sophomore in high school. We dated for the last two and half years of high for me. Then shortly after graduation, we got married. The first year was great, and our little girl was born the same year. I felt like I was doing everything I could to show him that I loved him, but one day I asked him what was one thing that I did that irritated him the most and he said it was me telling him that I loved him to much. That was devastating to hear because I have always loved hearing that so I thought he did too. So then I decided to get the Five Love Languages book, just to see what I could do to make me better. I read the book and figured out that his love language was Physical Touch, and all along I had done what was best for me. When I tried his love language everything began to change. It really changed our relationship. Thank you, it has truly made our marriage stronger.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Fri, 07 May 2010 02:21:36 +0000

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We started dating my sophmore year of highschool. We fell in love. We dated for a year and a half then got married, now we have 2 beautiful children. We began to argue more than talk, and fight more than get along by a long shot. We had a family friend give us your book as a gift, I started reading it and fell in love with the book instantly. I realized that the things I was doing was not showing him the love he needed. He needed words of affirmation and he needed it often right now because of our relationship going down. We are extremely close and we are both trying and it help our relationship on so many different levels. We are greatful to have been given this book and realized these Languages of Love before it was to late. Thank you so much Gary and Thank you lord

Thank you!
Brittany and Zachary

By: Valeria

Valeria — Thu, 06 May 2010 16:53:48 +0000

I want you you to know that I appreciate your ministry and the 5 love languages of teenagers. I am going through a rough period of adjustment with my teenager, at this time. I will use your assessment to better the relationship that I have with my child. I just wanted to let you know that it is a blessing to be able to see things from the perspective of the other person. Thank you for opening my eyes to a different way of loving and communicating with my children. May God continue to bless your ministry.

By: Proscovia

Proscovia — Thu, 06 May 2010 12:12:35 +0000

The Five love languages has been such an inspirational book to me. It has helped me speak my husband’s love language and also helped me to be able to help many other young couples preparing to get married and also to improve those who have been married longer than me but yet needed to make the marriage better.

Thank you so much Dr. Gary Chapman.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 06 May 2010 01:50:12 +0000

After taking a psychology of marriage course in college, my teacher introduced me to author Gary Chapman. I ended up doing a report on the 5 love languages and finally I decided to apply it to my own relationship. I made my husband take the assessment then I took the assessment. I found his love language was Physical touch and mine was words of affirmation. I always tried using words of affirmation on him and he would always try physical touch on me because thats what each of us wanted. We set a goal to try and give the other partner what their love language stated. It worked so well and we are so much happier! We always try and do different things to please each other. Thank you so much for this inspriational book, and your great assessment!