Have you participated in one of Dr. Chapman’s seminars or read one of his books and want to share how his message has influenced your life? If so, share your story with others of how learning your Love Language has impacted your relationship.
Choose One:
Gina
My husband is not very talkative, and I am. I thought I was missing something, even though I knew he was a good man. So after 15 years of marriage, I thought I wanted a divorce (I even went to an expensive lawyer and racked up several hours of fees). I told my husband I wanted a divorce and didn’t talk to him for 3-4 days. During that time we both were going through physical and emotional pain. We then started talking about everything that had happened and I re-read The Five Love Languages.
My husband’s language is acts of service, and he shows his love by working extremely hard to support our family. He accepts love through physical contact. My language is quality time primarily, followed by words of affirmation. I decided it was up to me to “translate” his language into mine – just as you would translate a foreign language into your own tongue. Ever since I made up my mind to do this, I knew that the success of our marriage was truly “up to me”, and we have been extremely happy.
I really learned a lesson from all this, and have since given the book and the quiz to others facing similar challenges. I am a true believer in The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Jason
I recently read The Five Love Languages on my Amazon Kindle. It was a fluke buy before a long trip, and I stumbled upon it while looking at the Kindle’s ‘top sellers.’ I want to say thank you for a delightfully helpful book.
I’m a seminary trained campus chaplain with plenty of psychology and pastoral counseling courses under my belt, but nothing I have read approaches your book in providing a grammar and vocabulary for healthy functioning in a marriage relationship.
The inventories at the back of the book were extremely helpful for my wife and me. I scored a 10 in physical touch and a 9 in words of affirmation. She scored a 9 in words of affirmation, and 8’s in quality time and acts of service. As we talked through the results, we both found out things we didn’t know we knew about each other. The most revolutionary thing for me personally was learning that there was more to my desire for touch than sex. Your book helped me see all the ways that I have received and shown love through touch, and that is a gift I and my wife will treasure for a long, long time.
Gina
I read your book The Five Love Languages. I have to thank you for saving my marriage. My husband and I went through the “in love” stage. When it was over, our marriage was almost lost. We started fighting all the time, and we were not happy. We have been married for nearly two years, and after reading your book, my husband and I are the happiest we’ve ever been. I figured out that my husband’s love language is quality time, and mine is physical touch. I have to say it again, thank you so much for saving my marriage. We don’t fight anymore. Our love tanks are always full! Thank you so much.
Brenda
I have been a clinical social worker working with children and families, practicing over 14 years. I can’t remember how I found out about The Five Love Languages, but I do know that it has been a tremendous tool for helping my husband and I put Christ back into the center of our marriage, and pay attention to the love needs we each have. We are high school sweethearts and although people say, “Oh, that’s so sweet,” we were very young when we got married. It hasn’t been easy, but God has blessed us so much in our marriage and brought some true healing and reconciliation!
A few years ago our church did a sermon series on love, introducing the book to the congregation and offered classes to study the book together. My husband and I lead a group of approximately eight couples, and we had a blast!
I have been using your book as a cornerstone in marital therapy with couples who seek my services. I
ask them to purchase the book. Their homework is to spend time reading it together and out loud. The insights they gain are amazing and the truly motivated couples begin a brand new chapter in their
marriages, feeling renewed. I praise God for you and for your gifts and for The Five Love Languages as it has blessed my marriage, my children, and the marriages of friends and clients. Thank you and God bless you.
Rich and Angie
We wanted to thank you for your conference in Albuquerque, New Mexico. We have been married almost 15 years, have a wonderful marriage and we both needed to be reminded of your fundamentals regarding communication, respect and the wonderful differences God created in us.
We have a delightful seven-year-old boy, and after your conference I (Mom) decided it would be wise to instill good communication skills to this man in the making. One day he said something to me that wasn’t respectful and my response was, “Was that respectful talk?” He looked at me with slight annoyance and responded, “Well, obviously when you ask me that question I know that it wasn’t respectful. Maybe you should say it differently so that I actually have to think.”
He opened my eyes and my mouth for a laugh that day! After our experience with your Love Talks for Families on the first occasion we used it, we knew it was money well spent. We asked the first question about imaginary awards. We had a good 15 minute discussion, which was mostly funny. After a few minutes our son said he wanted to give a non-award to both of us. He proceeded to tell us that when we say we can do something “in a minute” and it takes an hour, it frustrates him. I was pleasantly surprised that something so seemingly small (the questions) really opened the door to have a meaningful impact. We are both more careful about the phrases we use without giving much thought to, particularly with a very literal boy!