Category: Spirituality

Q&A: I'm a new Christian. How can I share my faith with my husband?

A: There’s no one answer to this. Sometimes non-Christians will be willing to listen to a devotional reading each day with you. For example, from a book I wrote some time ago called The One Minute Love Language Devotional for Couples. It’s just a one page devotional all about marriage. Because it is about marriage, often a non-Christian is willing to listen to their spouse read the devotional. You can also invite them to go to church with you and discuss what they learned about the sermon. Little steps like the two I suggested will move you in a positive direction to share your faith with your spouse.

Being a Loving Leader

Being a loving leader requires that you put your wife at the top of your priority list.

Christ is your example. He loved the church and gave himself for it. The church is his priority. He shed his blood for the church. And now, as our ascended Savior, he prays for you. What a model!

So, the husband who takes the Bible seriously will make his wife his number one priority. Throughout the day ask yourself the question: “What can I do for her that will enhance her life?” Pray for her dailyEncourage her worthy pursuitsCommend her for her accomplishments.

As Christ showers us with daily blessings, so you as loving leader should shower your wife with actions and words which say, “I love you”. And she? She will follow your leadership.

Asking for God's Help in Your Marriage

If you want to improve your marriage, are you open to trying the radical teachings of Jesus?

The first step is get alone with God and pray this prayer: “Lord, you know what I live with, and you know how I’ve been treated. But I know that I’m not perfect and what I want to know is where am I am failing in my marriage. What am I doing and saying that I shouldn’t? What am I failing to do and say that I should?” That is a prayer that God will answer. He will show you your failures. I suggest that you write them down as God brings them to your mind:

  1. I was not kind last night. I was harsh and cutting with my words.
  2. I have been withdrawing lately. Not willing to talk or express interest in his life.
  3. I’ve been acting like God is dead and hope is gone.

Write them down and confess them to God. ‘Lord, I know that these are wrong. I confess them to you. Thank you that Christ has paid for these sins. I ask for your forgiveness.” According to scripture, the moment you ask, you are FORGIVEN. Thank God for His forgiveness. “Now Lord, help me to do something good with my life today.” Friend, you have taken the first step in improving your marriage.

Asking for God’s Help in Your Marriage

If you want to improve your marriage, are you open to trying the radical teachings of Jesus?

The first step is get alone with God and pray this prayer: “Lord, you know what I live with, and you know how I’ve been treated. But I know that I’m not perfect and what I want to know is where am I am failing in my marriage. What am I doing and saying that I shouldn’t? What am I failing to do and say that I should?” That is a prayer that God will answer. He will show you your failures. I suggest that you write them down as God brings them to your mind:

  1. I was not kind last night. I was harsh and cutting with my words.
  2. I have been withdrawing lately. Not willing to talk or express interest in his life.
  3. I’ve been acting like God is dead and hope is gone.

Write them down and confess them to God. ‘Lord, I know that these are wrong. I confess them to you. Thank you that Christ has paid for these sins. I ask for your forgiveness.” According to scripture, the moment you ask, you are FORGIVEN. Thank God for His forgiveness. “Now Lord, help me to do something good with my life today.” Friend, you have taken the first step in improving your marriage.

He Came to Serve

In the early years of my marriage I didn’t know much about serving. I knew what I expected of my wife and was disappointed when she did not live up to my expectations. I’m sure she must have been just as frustrated with me because I know that I did not meet her expectations. Sadly, we had approached our marriage with a non-biblical attitude.

When I finally learned that love and service is the hallmark of a Christian husband, it did not take my wife long to change her attitude toward me. Once we learned to serve each other, the emotional climate of our marriage changed dramatically. Having the attitude of Christ is the key to a successful marriage. He came to serve.

 

Your Need For God

In today’s economy, it might be helpful to remember the words that are printed on our money, “In God we trust!” No matter how much money we have, it is still “in God we trust.” To trust in money to give life meaning is to trust in an idol.

C.S. Lewis said, “One of the dangers of having a lot of money is that you may be quite satisfied with the kinds of happiness money can give and so fail to realize your need for God. If everything seems to come simply by signing checks, you may forget that you are at every moment totally dependent on God.” Life’s meaning is not found in possessions, but in relationship – first with God, then with family and friends. “In God we trust.”

Give Him Your Life

What is your opinion of yourself? Who do you think you are? The scriptures say that you are made in the image of God. The Psalmist said to God, “For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I am unique in remarkable ways” (Ps. 139:13-14).

God made you. God loves you. And God wants you. You have a place in His family. If you don’t understand this, you may think of yourself as an alcoholic, or a prostitute, but that is not the way God sees you. God sees you as His creation, and He longs for you to respond to His love. The most powerful thing you can do for yourself and others is to turn to God and give Him your life.

Same Old Way

No other relationship is more important than our relationship with God. However, sometimes our relationship with God grows stale, or mundane. We are loving God, but we are doing it in the same old way, week after week and it has become ritual. We serve at the soup kitchen, or give our offering, without even thinking about God. It’s just what we do.

If you want to keep your love relationship with God alive, try speaking some new Love Languages. Instead of praying in the same familiar chair, stand up and pray or kneel or lay on the floor. Hold your offering in your hand and lift it to God as a symbol that this is an act of love. Then take it to church. God never intends that our relationship with Him become mundane.

Two Way Street

Christianity is a love relationship with God. But what does that look like in daily life. In my book: God Speaks Your Love Language, I use the Five Love Languages as a model for understanding this love relationship. I am drawn to Christ when He speaks my Love Language. Then, I reciprocate by expressing my love to Him using my love language.

For example, if my love language is Receiving Gifts, then I am drawn to Christ because He offers to give me forgiveness and eternal life. I am overwhelmed with His gift. Then I show my love to Him by giving gifts. My money is His money. I take great delight in supporting missionaries and giving food to feed the poor. Love is always a two way street.

Love Draws Us

How did you come to give your life to Christ? Jesus said, “No man comes to the Father, unless the Spirit draws Him.” God’s method of drawing us is ‘love’. The amazing thing is that God individualizes His expressions of love. To put it another way, He speaks our Love Language. The man whose Love Language is physical touch, will say, “I felt God. My body was shaking. Tears were flowing down my face.”

Another man will say, “I came to Christ because I was overcome with the reality that Christ actually was willing to take my punishment and die.” His love language was Acts of Service. He saw Christ’s death on the cross as the supreme Act of Service.

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