Category: God

How Does God Use People?

Isn’t it amazing that God chooses to use people to reach people?

Jesus said to His early followers, “I will make you fishers of men.”  He used that analogy because they were fisherman. They became the people who laid the foundation of the early church.  We follow their example.  We reach out loving people in the name of Jesus.

I’m sure the apostles did not sit around talking about the five love languages, but I can assure you that they spoke all five languages. Read the New Testament, and you will hear them speaking words of affirmation, giving gifts, performing acts of service, spending quality time, and extending physical touch.

How do You Know that God Loves You?

Ask a dozen people that question, and you may get a dozen answers. In human relationships, we feel loved when the other person speaks our primary love language. If words of affirmation is my love language, then I feel loved when you verbally affirm me. The same principle is true in our relationship with God.

In my book, God Speaks Your Love Language, I give biblical, historical, and contemporary examples of how God draws people to Himself by speaking their primary love language. This book has tremendous implications for evangelism. We are God’s representatives. He often uses us to express His love.  Learning to speak a person’s love language makes us more effective vehicles of God’s love.

All Love Flows from God

We have always said that Christianity is a love relationship with God. But what does that look like in daily life? In my book, God Speaks Your Love Language, I use the five love languages to explain how we can have a growing love relationship with God.

It is almost beyond belief that the eternal God would want to have a relationship with us. But, it’s true.  Not only that, but He speaks our love language so that we will know in our hearts that He loves us. He then welcomes our response, which incidentally, is usually expressed in our love language.

Q&A: Do you believe in New Year’s resolutions?

Question: Do you believe in New Year’s Resolutions? It seems that every year I make a list, but seldom accomplish my goals.  Consequently, I feel guilty. I’m beginning to think it would be better not to make the list.

Answer: I can certainly identify with this perspective, but I do believe in New Year’s Resolutions. All of us need to evaluate our lives periodically, and the beginning of a new year is a good time to do that. Let me share some ideas that can make this a positive experience. First, make your objectives realistic. Don’t shoot for the moon. Second, make your goals measurable. Better to say, I plan to have a quiet time with God at least once a week this year. Than to say, I’ll do it every day. This is both realistic and measurable.

Third, pray that God will give you wisdom on how to reach your goals. If you want to loose 20 pounds, you need to have a plan.  God can guide you to the plan that is right for you. And Fourth, don’t measure your worth by your performance. You are valued by God, even if you don’t keep your resolutions.

Q&A: Do you believe in New Year's resolutions?

Question: Do you believe in New Year’s Resolutions? It seems that every year I make a list, but seldom accomplish my goals.  Consequently, I feel guilty. I’m beginning to think it would be better not to make the list.

Answer: I can certainly identify with this perspective, but I do believe in New Year’s Resolutions. All of us need to evaluate our lives periodically, and the beginning of a new year is a good time to do that. Let me share some ideas that can make this a positive experience. First, make your objectives realistic. Don’t shoot for the moon. Second, make your goals measurable. Better to say, I plan to have a quiet time with God at least once a week this year. Than to say, I’ll do it every day. This is both realistic and measurable.

Third, pray that God will give you wisdom on how to reach your goals. If you want to loose 20 pounds, you need to have a plan.  God can guide you to the plan that is right for you. And Fourth, don’t measure your worth by your performance. You are valued by God, even if you don’t keep your resolutions.

Q&A: How do you prevent post-Christmas depression?

Question: How do you keep from being depressed after the gifts are all distributed, the family is all gone and the Christmas tree stands empty in the corner?

Answer: Well, that’s where all of us are today, Right? I don’t mean we are all depressed, but the empty tree now stands in the corner. For some of you, the extended family will remain for a few days, but by Friday they will be gone. No question about it, there can be an emotional ‘let-down’ after Christmas. We have been so busy, doing so many things. We may be emotionally spent.

My suggestion is that you have a daily quiet time with God each morning this week. You might read the book of Philippians, one chapter each day. Ask God to speak to you through His word. After reading, talk to God about what you read. Ask questions, express thanks, make requests. A conversation with God each day can keep you from the after Christmas blahs.  After all, He came to give us abundant life.

Q&A: How do you prevent post-Christmas depression?

Question: How do you keep from being depressed after the gifts are all distributed, the family is all gone and the Christmas tree stands empty in the corner?

Answer: Well, that’s where all of us are today, Right? I don’t mean we are all depressed, but the empty tree now stands in the corner. For some of you, the extended family will remain for a few days, but by Friday they will be gone. No question about it, there can be an emotional ‘let-down’ after Christmas. We have been so busy, doing so many things. We may be emotionally spent.

My suggestion is that you have a daily quiet time with God each morning this week. You might read the book of Philippians, one chapter each day. Ask God to speak to you through His word. After reading, talk to God about what you read. Ask questions, express thanks, make requests. A conversation with God each day can keep you from the after Christmas blahs.  After all, He came to give us abundant life.

Asking for God’s Help in Your Marriage

If you want to improve your marriage, are you open to trying the radical teachings of Jesus?

The first step is get alone with God and pray this prayer: “Lord, you know what I live with, and you know how I’ve been treated. But I know that I’m not perfect and what I want to know is where am I am failing in my marriage. What am I doing and saying that I shouldn’t? What am I failing to do and say that I should?” That is a prayer that God will answer. He will show you your failures. I suggest that you write them down as God brings them to your mind:

  1. I was not kind last night. I was harsh and cutting with my words.
  2. I have been withdrawing lately. Not willing to talk or express interest in his life.
  3. I’ve been acting like God is dead and hope is gone.

Write them down and confess them to God. ‘Lord, I know that these are wrong. I confess them to you. Thank you that Christ has paid for these sins. I ask for your forgiveness.” According to scripture, the moment you ask, you are FORGIVEN. Thank God for His forgiveness. “Now Lord, help me to do something good with my life today.” Friend, you have taken the first step in improving your marriage.

Asking for God's Help in Your Marriage

If you want to improve your marriage, are you open to trying the radical teachings of Jesus?

The first step is get alone with God and pray this prayer: “Lord, you know what I live with, and you know how I’ve been treated. But I know that I’m not perfect and what I want to know is where am I am failing in my marriage. What am I doing and saying that I shouldn’t? What am I failing to do and say that I should?” That is a prayer that God will answer. He will show you your failures. I suggest that you write them down as God brings them to your mind:

  1. I was not kind last night. I was harsh and cutting with my words.
  2. I have been withdrawing lately. Not willing to talk or express interest in his life.
  3. I’ve been acting like God is dead and hope is gone.

Write them down and confess them to God. ‘Lord, I know that these are wrong. I confess them to you. Thank you that Christ has paid for these sins. I ask for your forgiveness.” According to scripture, the moment you ask, you are FORGIVEN. Thank God for His forgiveness. “Now Lord, help me to do something good with my life today.” Friend, you have taken the first step in improving your marriage.

Distorted Anger

Many marriages have been destroyed by uncontrolled anger. The feeling of anger is not sinful. Even God feels anger. Great social reforms have been motivated by anger. But uncontrolled anger has destroyed the lives of thousands. If you feel angry, admit it and ask God to help you take positive action.

One constructive step is to ask: “Am I angry because someone sinned against me? Or, because I did not get what I wanted?” If someone sinned, you should be angry. That is godly anger. However, much of our anger is distorted – things simply did not go our way. If this is the case, we need to confess our selfish response, accept God’s forgiveness and release our anger to Him.

 

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