October 20, 2016
Because we spend so much of our time on the job, I have been deeply interested in workplace relationships. Why would we not want to make things as pleasant as we can for everyone? One ingredient is helping people feel appreciated. However, what makes one person feel appreciated will not make another person feel appreciated. Thus our efforts often get rebuffed. We fail to hit the target in how to express appreciation. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book to help you be more successful in your efforts: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. A free online inventory: Motivating By Appreciation will give you the persons primary, secondary and least important language of appreciation.
October 19, 2016
Can you recall a time within the last week when you verbally affirmed a coworker? If so, what did you say? How did they respond? If you saw them ‘light up’ and come alive, you can assume that words of affirmation is their primary appreciation language. However, if they brushed off your comments, you can assume they have a different appreciation language. We believe that the five love languages which have helped so many couples connect emotionally also have application in workplace. However, don’t assume that your primary love language at home will be your primary appreciation language at work. Work relationships are very different from family relationships. But love and appreciation are essential to healthy relationships.
October 18, 2016
Are you a business owner, CEO, or President of your company? Would you like to see reductions in employee turnover, improved attendance and productivity, greater customer satisfaction, more positive relationships between supervisors, staff, and colleagues, and a more positive corporate culture and work environment? Dr. Paul White and I believe that the book: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace, will help you accomplish all of those objectives. When people feel appreciated they are more engaged, they give themselves to their work. The Key is learning how to express appreciation effectively. You may give them a gift, but they would much prefer words of affirmation. One size does not fit all.
October 13, 2016
“I used to think that I was doing a good job of expressing appreciation to those who worked for me. However, when we took the Motivating By Appreciation inventory, I discovered that many of my employees had very different appreciation languages.” What this manager discovered is what many managers are discovering: what makes one person feel appreciated is not what makes another person feel appreciated. The Motivating By Appreciation inventory comes free with the book: The Five Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. Dr. Paul White and I are thrilled with the results we are seeing in all types of companies: from hair salons to construction companies, people are learning how to effectively express appreciation and thus create a more positive workplace.
October 12, 2016
Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, and physical touch – you know them as the 5 love languages. But I also believe they are the 5 languages of appreciation in the workplace. Let’s face it, we spend long hours each day in our place of employment. Why not seek to create a positive emotional climate so that all of us enjoy of jobs more. Don’t wait for your supervisor to read the book. Read it yourself and challenge your group of co-workers to discuss and discover each other’s primary appreciation language. The book? The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. Dr. Paul White and I are seeing this book change the emotional climate in thousands of businesses around the world. Why not yours?
October 11, 2016
Do you and your co-workers feel appreciated for the work you do? One employee who was leaving his job for another said, “It’s not about the money. It’s just that no matter what I do – how long I work or what I accomplish – I never hear anything positive. If I make a mistake, I hear about it immediately, but if I do my job well, there is silence.” I believe that thousands of employees can identify with this statement. That is why Dr. Paul White and I teamed up to write a book which addresses this issue. The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe it will help managers and supervisors be more effective in their efforts to express appreciation.
October 8, 2016
Q: Gary, I feel like my fiancé has lost interest in me. How can I get her to be interested once again?
Gary: Well if I had a quick answer to that, I would make a million dollars. How many times in a dating relationship does a partner fall out of love before the other falls out of love? It’s a very common occurrence. It would be nice if you could read the five love languages together and particularly the chapter when I talk about being in love. Perhaps she would come to discover that these feelings dissipate for everyone. It doesn’t mean the relationship should stop, but it does mean we need to learn each other’s love languages so we can then assess the relationship.
October 6, 2016
One recent research project found that while 51% of business managers felt they expressed adequate appreciation for good performance; only 17 percent of the employees felt appreciated. Why this disconnect in workplace relationships? I believe because we make the mistake of thinking that what makes me feel appreciated will make others feel appreciated. This is a false assumption. Just as we have different love languages in family relationships, we also have different ‘appreciation languages’ in the work place. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book entitled: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe that learning to speak a person’s primary appreciation language will yield amazing results in the workplace.
October 4, 2016
If you are employed, I have a question for you. One a scale of 0 – 10 how appreciated do you feel by your immediate supervisor? How appreciated do you feel by your co-workers? Our research found that 70% of those who work feel under-appreciated. 64% of those who leave a job for another say they did so primarily because they did not feel appreciated. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book entitled: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe that one person (you) can change the emotional climate in your workplace. The key is learning how to express appreciation in a language that the other person understands.
Learn more at: appreciation-at-work.com
September 30, 2016
Q: Gary, our kids are taking more and more time and my husband and I seem tired ALL of the time. How can we keep our love alive when all focus is going elsewhere?
Gary: Well if all focus is going elsewhere, you can’t keep love alive. there has to be time to stimulate love in a marriage relationship. It’s a matter of priorities. Listen, children are important, but marriage is the most fundamental relationship in a family. If the two of you grow apart, what is that going to do for your children?
I think you need to look again at your schedule. Make time. Put it on the schedule. “We’re going to have dinner on these nights this month,” “We’re going to do this,” etc. Make plans, spend time with each other. Get a babysitter! There are people who would be happy to watch your children while you go out together. You have to make time to have a loving marriage.