Some couples have never learned how to make decisions together. So, they make decisions independently and try to force their decision on the spouse. This will never create a healthy marriage. We all have personal thoughts, feelings, and desires. Sometimes these clash with those of our spouse. Welcome to the human race. There is nothing wrong with disagreements. However, we must learn to listen to each other in order to understand their thoughts, feelings and desires. Once we understand each other, then we can look for a solution. Compromise is not a negative word. Webster says, a compromise is ‘a settlement by consent reached by mutual concession.’That is healthy decision making.
July 24, 2017