One of the reasons that some people have trouble in marriage is that they grew up with a faulty model or no model at all. A child who grows up in a single parent home has no model demonstrating what a healthy marriage looks like, unless they may have grandparents, relatives, or family friends that provide this model. Those who grow up with both parents will likely replicate in their marriage what they saw in their parents. This can be good, or it can be extremely bad depending on the parental model. What model are you setting for your children? If you’re not happy with your answer to this question, read a book, attend a marriage seminar, seek counseling, do something. If your spouse is unwilling, do it alone and pray that he or she will eventually join you. You owe it to your children.
January 30, 2014