Q&A: Can I have more than one primary love language?

Q: “Is it possible for someone to score equally on three of the five love languages on the online profile?”

Gary Chapman: Well, my guess is you did . . . and therefore you are really asking , “Am I odd?” Rest assured, you’re not. It’s not uncommon that people will sometimes have two love languages (even three) that stand out at the very top that are equal. Your results seem to indicate that you have three. What that means is that any one of those three would communicate love very deeply to you. So if your wife knows that, then she can focus on one of those three and from time to time on the other two. The key is to communicate with each other what your primary love language(s) is/are so that you both gain the insight into how to express love to each other in a way that is most meaningful.


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