One of the commonly held myths of our day is that “people cannot change.” If my spouse has been unfaithful, then they will certainly do it again, no matter what they promise. If they have miss-managed our money for 5 years, they will continue to do so. Accepting this myth leads to feelings of hopelessness. This myth fails to reckon with the reality of human freedom and the power of God. Libraries are filled with accounts of people who have made radical changes in their behavior. St. Augustine, who once lived for pleasure and thought his lusts were inescapable, radically changed and became a great leader in the church. People can and do change, and often the changes are dramatic. Don’t give up on the person you love.