When couples come to me for pre-marital counseling, I sometimes ask: “Why do you want to get married?” Whatever else they say, they always give me the big reason: and the big reason is always the same. “We love each other.” Then I ask a very unfair question: “Tell me, what do you mean by that?” There is silence. Then, one will say, “Oh…You know!” I guess maybe I do know. I think they are talking about a euphoric emotion that makes them oblivious to reality. They are the happiest they have ever been. What they don’t know is that the euphoric feelings will last for two years and then they must find another foundation for marriage. Wouldn’t it be better to explore that foundation before they get married?
April 25, 2013