Q: I tend to be very passive in dealing with conflict and my wife is direct and confrontational. How can we be better at resolving differences?
A: To solve conflicts, we both have to share our honest feelings and ideas. We also have to listen to the other person with the view to understanding and not condemning what they’re saying and how they’re feeling. If you can’t get this together yourself, you can try reading one of the many books on this topic. One of those is my book, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted. If that doesn’t work, by all means, sit down with a counselor or pastor to learn the skills of listening and resolving conflicts in a positive way.