Q: Gary, I tend to be more rational than emotional. Is it OK to move forward in my relationship with my boyfriend if I have never had the euphoric stage of being “in love”?
A: You ought to examine all the rest of the relationship. Make sure it’s not a “working contract” mentality you have with this person. There ought to be some things that attract you about them, some things you feel really positive about. You also ought to look at the red flags that are waiving that might be troublesome points in the relationship. The reason I say it’s not absolutely necessary to have the “in love” experience is because it’s temporary anyway. You’re going to come down off the high sooner or later. Looking at all the other aspects of the relationship is probably far more important than simply being in love.