http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/01/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time/ Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:00:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/01/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time/#comment-679 Emily Wed, 26 May 2010 04:57:18 +0000 http://mtownimport.wordpress.com/2009/01/26/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time#comment-679 Reading this just makes me want to cry. Quality time is my primary love language, (acts of service is my husband's) but I haven't had what could be even loosely termed "quality time" with him since shortly after we were married 12 years ago. Yeah, we are sexually intimate, but I was dismayed to discover that (apparently; do correct me if I'm wrong) other people actually TALK to each other when they are intimate in bed. They talk before, and after, sometimes as well. We never have. We have NO dates, no conversations aside from "what's for dinner" and my asking "how was work", which get a monosyllabic answer, "fine". I have dreams ALL THE TIME, about him looking into my eyes, and smiling at me. That's all, nothing more. Oh, those are such happy dreams... but they never last, and it never comes true. :( Reading this just makes me want to cry. Quality time is my primary love language, (acts of service is my husband’s) but I haven’t had what could be even loosely termed “quality time” with him since shortly after we were married 12 years ago. Yeah, we are sexually intimate, but I was dismayed to discover that (apparently; do correct me if I’m wrong) other people actually TALK to each other when they are intimate in bed. They talk before, and after, sometimes as well. We never have. We have NO dates, no conversations aside from “what’s for dinner” and my asking “how was work”, which get a monosyllabic answer, “fine”. I have dreams ALL THE TIME, about him looking into my eyes, and smiling at me. That’s all, nothing more. Oh, those are such happy dreams… but they never last, and it never comes true.

]]> http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/01/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time/#comment-49 Anonymous Sun, 13 Dec 2009 15:53:10 +0000 http://mtownimport.wordpress.com/2009/01/26/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time#comment-49 What do you do if your spouse's love language is (definitely) quality time; my love language is also quality time; physical touch is both of our secondary love languages as well; we're both committed to our marriage working because we have kids; but I just don't like spending time with my spouse at all? I've tried to give my spouse quality time, and I can do it for a while by really trying, but it's not enjoyable at all. So my spouse's love tank is empty and so my spouse is not happy, but to fill it would require giving quality time which I've never deeply enjoyed ever in our marriage.Please give a deep answer, in that we've/I've already done the vast majority of other things: going to therapy, improving our communication technique, trying to find fun things to do together, go out on dates frequently, read most of your books. What do you do if your spouse's love language is (definitely) quality time; my love language is also quality time; physical touch is both of our secondary love languages as well; we're both committed to our marriage working because we have kids; but I just don't like spending time with my spouse at all? I've tried to give my spouse quality time, and I can do it for a while by really trying, but it's not enjoyable at all. So my spouse's love tank is empty and so my spouse is not happy, but to fill it would require giving quality time which I've never deeply enjoyed ever in our marriage.Please give a deep answer, in that we've/I've already done the vast majority of other things: going to therapy, improving our communication technique, trying to find fun things to do together, go out on dates frequently, read most of your books.

]]> http://www.5lovelanguages.com/2009/01/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time/#comment-48 Anonymous Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:56:00 +0000 http://mtownimport.wordpress.com/2009/01/26/speaking-the-love-language-of-quality-time#comment-48 I think quality time is the most special love language to my heart but my husband doesn't think so because he has yet to do it for me. I'm working really hard to do his love language (acts of service), which has been especilly hard for me, but he so far as made no effort to fill my love tank. Dr. Chapman, words aren't getting the point across, how do I convince him that my love tank is empty and I NEED him to fill it? I think quality time is the most special love language to my heart but my husband doesn’t think so because he has yet to do it for me. I’m working really hard to do his love language (acts of service), which has been especilly hard for me, but he so far as made no effort to fill my love tank. Dr. Chapman, words aren’t getting the point across, how do I convince him that my love tank is empty and I NEED him to fill it?

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